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what do you think,,women must wear hijab or it is bad thing??
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Why Do I Wear Hijab?
I probably do not fit into the preconceived notion of a "rebel". I have no visible tattoos and minimal piercings. I do not possess a leather jacket.
In fact, when most people look at me, their first thought usually is something along the lines of "oppressed female."
The brave individuals who have mustered the courage to ask me about the way I dress usually have questions like: "Do your parents make you wear that?" or "Don't you find that really unfair?"
A while back, a couple of girls in Montreal were kicked out of school for dressing like I do. It seems strange that a little piece of cloth would make for such controversy. Perhaps the fear is that I am harbouring an Uzi underneath it.
Of course, the issue at hand is more than a mere piece of cloth. I am a Muslim woman who, like millions of other Muslim women across the globe, chooses to wear the hijab. And the concept of the hijab, contrary to popular opinion, is actually one of the most fundamental aspects of female empowerment.
When I cover myself, I make it virtually impossible for people to judge me according to the way I look. I cannot be categorized because of my attractiveness or lack thereof. Compare this to life in today's society: We are constantly sizing one another up on the basis of our clothing, jewelry, hair and makeup. What kind of depth can there be in a world like this? Yes, I have a body, a physical manifestation upon this Earth. But it is the vessel of an intelligent mind and a strong spirit.
It is not for the beholder to leer at or to use in advertisements to sell everything from beer to cars. Because of the superficiality of the world in which we live, external appearances are so stressed that the value of the individual counts for almost nothing.
It is a myth that women in today's society are liberated. What kind of freedom can there be when a woman cannot walk down the street without every aspect of her physical self being "checked out"? When I wear the hijab I feel safe from all of this. I can rest assured that no one is looking at me and making assumptions about my character from the length of my skirt. There is a barrier between me and those who would exploit me. I am first and foremost a human being, equal to any man, and not vulnerable because of my sexuality.
One of the saddest truths of our time is the question of the beauty myth and female self-image. Reading popular teenage magazines, you can instantly find out what kind of body image is "in" or "out." and if you have the "wrong" body type, well, then, you're just going to have to change it, aren't you? After all, there is no way that you can be overweight and still be beautiful. Look at any advertisement. Is a woman being used to sell the product? How old is she? How attractive is she? What is she wearing? More often than not, that woman will be no older than her early 20s, taller, slimmer and more attractive than average, dressed in skimpy clothing.
Why do we allow ourselves to be manipulated like this?
Whether the '90s woman wishes to believe it or not, she is being forced into a mold. She is being coerced into selling herself, into compromising herself. This is why we have 13-year-old girls sticking their fingers down their throats and overweight adolescents hanging themselves. When people ask me if I feel oppressed, I can honestly say no. I made this decision out of my own free will. I like the fact that I am taking control of the way other people perceive me. I enjoy the fact that I don't give anyone anything to look at and that I have released myself from the bondage of the swinging pendulum of the fashion industry and other institutions that exploit females.
My body is my own business. Nobody can tell me how I should look or whether or not I am beautiful. I know that there is more to me than that. I am also able to say "no" comfortably then people ask me if I feel as though my sexuality is being repressed.
I have taken control of my sexuality. I am thankful I will never have to suffer the fate of trying to lose/gain weight or trying to find the exact lipstick shade that will go with my skin colour. I have made choices about what my priorities are and these are not among them. So next time you see me, don't look at me sympathetically. I am not under duress or a male-worshipping female captive from Arabic deserts. I've been liberated.
Author : Sultana Yusufali
Source : Toronto Star Young People's Press
Why are most women such whores these days?
Claire
When I go out I see women dressed in short little skirts, tattoos all over their body. They go out and go home with guys they do not even know. Now I noticed heaps of guys these days, just think most women are sluts who will just go to bed with them. Why would a women want to let a guy just use her like that? why would they enjoy a going to bed with some one they do not even know? I think it is just wrong
Some people might see me as a slut because I go out and talk to heaps of guys, even let them buy me drinks. My dancing is even a little slutty but when I go out I never let people touch me, or I never go home with any guys.
It is like people think it is cool to be this way
Its like the new in thing
What happened to people wanting to have a relationship, or at least getting to know some one first
Answer Women (and men for that matter) respond to what they think are societies expectations are of themselves. They see themselves through the media. And when
music, tv, movies all teach us what is acceptable, or where the moral bar is, we respond in kind. I also think there are other reasons too: rebellion, competition and empowerment. I think today's society has become the most disillusioned, mistrusting and rebellious ever for numbers of reasons basically which boil down to, "it's all a lie" and "we might all be dead tommorow". We fight wars for greed, we exploit the earth and abuse each other for power and wealth. And that's the "why" behind, "Why leave anything for the future (that may or may not be here anyway?)". "Get it now" and "have fun while you can" in the name of immediate gratification.
This spills over to our core values. There has been a lowering of the bar of morality for some time now. And "why not?" half of all marriages end in divorce. "Saving oneself for marriage" or "being a good girl", doesn't nearly get you the respect or carry the stigma it once did. And the downside is, relationships become more about "how you look" than "what your values are" or "what kind of a person you are". And the more diluted and artificial things become, the easier it is for a young girl or man to accept being self centered. Having values and morals and depth is just not repected. And in a way too, it's more confusing too, at least before there were more defined roles and values.
What's supposed to be liberating and freeing, in itself becomes enslaving, as they are artificial. Without values, things have no meaning. You are not satnding for anything except ego. And what I mean is: On one level, having 15 cute guys chasing you at a club desiring you "feels empowering" at first, because it feeds the ego. But becomes quickly meaningless, when you find all they desire is your body alone. That you had no value. What felt empowering, "being wanted" becomes meaningless, because you are "just a thing" to be desired and you personally have no respect. Singurally, you are "not special". As being once obtained, you are thrown away, like so many other disposable things in society. The goal was "attainment", obtained and ego satisfied, the purpose and meaning are gone.
And unfortunately too.. this can feed on itself, because now a young woman "feels" she has less value and "needs" to do what's expected to compete? I don't know if this all makes sense?? But to wrap it all up, let's just say: "Hollywood has fed us crap that's untrue, media lies, politicians lie, we have grown to expect gratication now and this has led to a lowering of self respect and standards.
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