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Alannah
Hi everyone,
I've noticed that more and more people are having children before they're married - either by choice or by accident.
What is your opinion on it? Do you think it impacts positively or negatively on their children?
I personally don't think I'd do it, but I'm still curious of people's opinions.
Thank you!
Answer
Marriage creates a stable environment for children to be reared in (assuming it's a stable marriage). Chaos in the home an instability can really mess children up. Children who had a lot of chaos in their early childhood (before puberty) can begin exhibiting some crazy behavior in their teens and early adulthood. They can begin having overwhelming feelings that they don't know how to deal with. They will use the arousal mechanism to attempt to deal with these feelings. This can include thrill seeking behavior, aggressive piercing/tattooing (e.g. genital piercing), self mutilation (cutting, burning, hair pulling, etc.), excessive sexualization, and other behavior.
Granted, chaos can happen plenty even with married couples (particularly when one or both parents are addicts/alcoholics or abusive), but even the lack of a steady father figure can be a cause of chaos. So, if you're a single mother and you keep bringing different men into the children's life and not let them have a steady and healthy relationship with their father, it can be a cause of chaos to the children.
When children (especially girls) do not have a good relationship with their father or father figure, they tend to seek father figures in their relationships with men. These are the girls that will date guys in their twenties when she is only fourteen or so. When they exhibit these kinds of behaviors, they will inherently attract men that are flawed (like the guy in his twenties dating a fourteen year-old). This will tend to lead towards the girls being attracted to abusive a** holes.
Children who come from a lot of chaos will also tend to become uncomfortable opening up to others and having intimate relationships with them. They also become uneasy in the lack of chaos. This is often exhibited in romantic relationships. These children will be attracted to people who are chaotic in their relationship (abusive a** holes). If they begin dating someone who is a nice person who treats them right, they will become uncomfortable and sabotage their relationship. One example of sabotage is cheating on their partner and having the urge to tell them they cheated.
Now that everyone who read my answer is very depressed, the good news is, this is a trend and is not always what happens. It's also possible to create a stable environment for children outside of a marriage, but is more difficult and uncertain.
In short, have kids after you're married, your marriage is steady, and you're able to create a stable atmosphere for your children to grow up in.
Marriage creates a stable environment for children to be reared in (assuming it's a stable marriage). Chaos in the home an instability can really mess children up. Children who had a lot of chaos in their early childhood (before puberty) can begin exhibiting some crazy behavior in their teens and early adulthood. They can begin having overwhelming feelings that they don't know how to deal with. They will use the arousal mechanism to attempt to deal with these feelings. This can include thrill seeking behavior, aggressive piercing/tattooing (e.g. genital piercing), self mutilation (cutting, burning, hair pulling, etc.), excessive sexualization, and other behavior.
Granted, chaos can happen plenty even with married couples (particularly when one or both parents are addicts/alcoholics or abusive), but even the lack of a steady father figure can be a cause of chaos. So, if you're a single mother and you keep bringing different men into the children's life and not let them have a steady and healthy relationship with their father, it can be a cause of chaos to the children.
When children (especially girls) do not have a good relationship with their father or father figure, they tend to seek father figures in their relationships with men. These are the girls that will date guys in their twenties when she is only fourteen or so. When they exhibit these kinds of behaviors, they will inherently attract men that are flawed (like the guy in his twenties dating a fourteen year-old). This will tend to lead towards the girls being attracted to abusive a** holes.
Children who come from a lot of chaos will also tend to become uncomfortable opening up to others and having intimate relationships with them. They also become uneasy in the lack of chaos. This is often exhibited in romantic relationships. These children will be attracted to people who are chaotic in their relationship (abusive a** holes). If they begin dating someone who is a nice person who treats them right, they will become uncomfortable and sabotage their relationship. One example of sabotage is cheating on their partner and having the urge to tell them they cheated.
Now that everyone who read my answer is very depressed, the good news is, this is a trend and is not always what happens. It's also possible to create a stable environment for children outside of a marriage, but is more difficult and uncertain.
In short, have kids after you're married, your marriage is steady, and you're able to create a stable atmosphere for your children to grow up in.
What would you say to parents who tattoo their children?
Voyageur
This is going to sound like a joke but it is true. I saw a set of 5 yr old twins (boy and girl) with actual real tattoos. My guess is that the parent is a tattoo artist.
Trust me they were not fake tattoos. What would you say to the parent(s)?
Captain C
wouldn't that be child abuse?
Answer
I can't imagine they were real- some fake tatoos can look very real, depending on how it is done. They have henna and those airbrush tats and some you really can't tell.
If they are real, that is F-ed up and if I was with social services I would take those kids away from those parents in a heartbeat.
I can't imagine they were real- some fake tatoos can look very real, depending on how it is done. They have henna and those airbrush tats and some you really can't tell.
If they are real, that is F-ed up and if I was with social services I would take those kids away from those parents in a heartbeat.
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