Mindy
I don't know where to start....
When I was younger I got a lot of tattoos. Some of them are not the best of quality and frankly, I am pretty insecure about it. I have the serenity prayer on my rib cage, a piece of flowers, hearts, and keys that go all the way around my waist, a flower piece on my leg, and a star piece on my other leg. I have been told I am a hot girl, but I am so insecure about these tattoos that I never open myself to anyone because I am afraid of being rejected because of them. Well, I have been talking to this guy I met and he hadn't seen my tattoos. Recently he saw the piece that goes around my waist and since him seeing it he has not contacted me at all.... I am really upset. I feel like a leper or something. Would a woman's tattoos really put you off to the point where you wouldn't give her a chance?
Here is a pic of me.... I am not sure how to raise my head up. This is really affecting me in a bad way. I have a beautiful daughter and am so insecure about my tattoos that I have a hard time going to the pool to swim with her....
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encouraging responses appreciated
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Answer
First of all, I think your gorgeous. Secondly, maybe you can think of your tattoos in another way. Think of them as representative of that time in your life. If you're that upset about them, you can have them fixed/redone so you don't feel so ashamed by them, but look at them not with so much shame, but as a reminder of where you have come from. If someone doesn't like you for expressing who you were at a particular phase in your life, then they really aren't someone worth knowing.
As somone who is overweight, I struggled with the bathing suit thing for awhile but then realized that spending time with my children was worth so much more than worrying about what other people thought about me. I began loving myself more and living life for myself instead of for other people. Interestingly enough that meant that I actually GOT 2 tattoos and dyed my hair pink, so paradoxically I suppose I probably draw more attention to myself now than I did before, but I don't care because I am being true to myself now.
You need to be you, for you and for your daughter. Don't worry about what other people think, learn to love yourself and accept that you chose to get those tattoos at a time in your life for whatever reasons you decided to get inked. There had to be a reason for that. Don't deny that reason, learn to accept it.
As others have pointed out, you can wear a one piece and swim trunks to cover up if it makes you feel more comfortable, but you should go swimming and enjoy spending time with your daughter. So many people have tattoos these days that I seriously doubt anyone will even notice anyway! You're probably more self conscious about it than other people are even aware of them.
First of all, I think your gorgeous. Secondly, maybe you can think of your tattoos in another way. Think of them as representative of that time in your life. If you're that upset about them, you can have them fixed/redone so you don't feel so ashamed by them, but look at them not with so much shame, but as a reminder of where you have come from. If someone doesn't like you for expressing who you were at a particular phase in your life, then they really aren't someone worth knowing.
As somone who is overweight, I struggled with the bathing suit thing for awhile but then realized that spending time with my children was worth so much more than worrying about what other people thought about me. I began loving myself more and living life for myself instead of for other people. Interestingly enough that meant that I actually GOT 2 tattoos and dyed my hair pink, so paradoxically I suppose I probably draw more attention to myself now than I did before, but I don't care because I am being true to myself now.
You need to be you, for you and for your daughter. Don't worry about what other people think, learn to love yourself and accept that you chose to get those tattoos at a time in your life for whatever reasons you decided to get inked. There had to be a reason for that. Don't deny that reason, learn to accept it.
As others have pointed out, you can wear a one piece and swim trunks to cover up if it makes you feel more comfortable, but you should go swimming and enjoy spending time with your daughter. So many people have tattoos these days that I seriously doubt anyone will even notice anyway! You're probably more self conscious about it than other people are even aware of them.
What is the key to attracting women?
Q. I'm 17 and I've never had a girlfriend before. It seems like every time I like a girl I'm always guessing if she likes me back or not, and it ends up being no. I don't lack self confidence and even though I'm not amazingly handsome I wouldn't say I'm ugly. Even though I'm not a life-of-the-party kind of guy, I can still keep a conversation interesting and make a girl laugh. I play in a band and I thought girls are supposed to like musicians? What gives? Is it because I have long hair and listen to metal? Is that a turn off to girls?
Answer
The key to attracting women, and I'm completely, serious when I say this, is....confidence. If you don't have it, then fake it. Really girls could sense when guys are feeling awkward or are being too nice or too needy. You have to act confident and masculine, meaning you take control...and you could learn to take control in small steps. Like smiling at a girl that you see and find pretty....many guys find this extremely hot, so learning to do this takes major guts. Also going up to a girl and telling her that she's pretty. Asking questions about her and making her laugh.
Looks hardly matter...you don't need muscles, a stubble, tattoos or skinny jeans. You just need to act like you know you look good and do not have any problem on what anyone else thinks of you.
Ever seen girls dating these really obnoxious guys or weird looking guys and wonder, wtf does she see in him? Well, that my friend is confidence. And you need it. But don't worry...you'll learn to develop it as you get more practice talking to girls...so get to it!
The key to attracting women, and I'm completely, serious when I say this, is....confidence. If you don't have it, then fake it. Really girls could sense when guys are feeling awkward or are being too nice or too needy. You have to act confident and masculine, meaning you take control...and you could learn to take control in small steps. Like smiling at a girl that you see and find pretty....many guys find this extremely hot, so learning to do this takes major guts. Also going up to a girl and telling her that she's pretty. Asking questions about her and making her laugh.
Looks hardly matter...you don't need muscles, a stubble, tattoos or skinny jeans. You just need to act like you know you look good and do not have any problem on what anyone else thinks of you.
Ever seen girls dating these really obnoxious guys or weird looking guys and wonder, wtf does she see in him? Well, that my friend is confidence. And you need it. But don't worry...you'll learn to develop it as you get more practice talking to girls...so get to it!
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